Building Positive Habits For Full-Time Remote Work

“Where did this bowl of ice cream come from?” And other questions that arise when we work from home.

Last week, I was on a video call with a client in the UK. I was in my office in New York. She was at her desk in her home office in a London suburb. I mentioned I would be working from home sporadically starting this week and was worried about, among other things, my habit of raiding the fridge too often (read: constantly). She laughed and said she looked up from her emails the other day and there was a bowl of ice cream next to her laptop. She said, “I thought, ‘where did this come from?’ I didn’t even know I had ice cream in the house!”

Humans are social animals. Most of us expect, need and thrive on connections and interactions. Being told that “social distancing” is the best way to decrease and ultimately defeat COVID-19 comes across as a threat. We’ll each learn more about ourselves and our connections as we adapt to more widespread remote work environments. As large teams transition to full-time work from home, here are answers to some questions you might find yourself asking:

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1. How do I manage my eating and other personal habits?

Constant access to food (TV, pets, kids, etc.) isn’t helpful when you need to concentrate on work. We adopt new habits when we are in new situations. Here are physical and metaphysical ways to deal with this challenge.

The metaphysical – Ask yourself, “what are my habits on a typical workday?” If those habits work for you, remind yourself of them and stick to them. Wake up as if you still have to commute: do your morning routine, shower, and get dressed (even if it’s day pajamas). Don’t just roll out of bed and turn on your laptop. Make sure that when you’re ready to start working, you sit in a supportive chair at a dedicated workspace. If your normal behavior at work is to not snack, keep telling yourself, “I’m at work. The same rules apply even though I am sitting in my kitchen.”

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The physical – Don’t sit in your kitchen. The physical proximity to food will encourage you to eat. You’re not really hungry; you’re confused. You’re not used to having food so close all day. Sit out of sight of the food and you won’t be as tempted by it. If your kitchen is the only place to sit, put the food out of sight. I just moved a full cookie jar from within arm’s length to the other side of the room. I’m eating fewer cookies and burning some calories walking across the room to get them. The same applies to your other distractions. Put the TV remote out of reach so you’re not tempted to check the new news or turn on your favorite show. Better yet, put it out of sight- maybe across the room in the cookie jar.

2. How do I stay connected to my colleagues?

You’ll need to over-communicate, especially if working from home is new to you, your colleagues or your company. Video-chat options are better than the phone, and the phone is better than email. We’re all adjusting and doing so rapidly. It’s ok to occasionally “stop by” someone’s home desk by checking in just to catch up.

If you manage a team and you’re all new to working remotely, make the effort to check in with each member of your team even if you don’t have anything specific to ask. Remember your habits from the office. If your inclination would be to stop by and check in on someone, don’t let the fact that you’re now working remotely change that behavior. Your team needs to know you are comfortable with this new way of communicating.

We’ve all connected to people via technology. We’re used to it. What many of us aren’t used to is having this be the predominant way we communicate with each other. We don’t know how long this situation will last. Put habits in place as soon as possible to shorten the learning curve, get everyone comfortable with connecting remotely and maintain relationships.

One of the big adjustments we need to make when we all work remotely is that our work habits – dictated and influenced by our organization’s culture and protocols – are suddenly relevant when we are sitting in our living room, den, or home office (but not our kitchen – see above). For instance, if you know the VP of Finance doesn’t like people popping by his office unannounced, he won’t like an unscheduled video call either. If the SVP of Sales is comfortable brainstorming aloud when you stop by her office, she’ll likely be open to the same when you log in for your weekly remote meeting. As more of us work remotely, we will undoubtedly add new dimensions to our firm’s culture, which will eventually be codified through firm protocols. Until those directions are in place, we’ll each have to be more conscious of how we live our firms’ cultures in a remote environment.

While I have been writing this, one of my colleagues called via Microsoft Teams to, I assumed, have a video conversation. However, he had accidentally hit the wrong button and invited our entire leadership team to the call. Although the very brief get-together was unanticipated and technically an interruption, it was the remote equivalent of everyone inadvertently showing up in the break room for a cup of coffee at the same time. It provided a breath, a break, a brief bonding – all necessary to keep colleagues together and on the same path.

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3. Why is this such a big deal?

Undoubtedly, many of you have worked remotely for years and are wondering what the big deal is about this mass migration to remote work. You made the mental transition a long time ago, and your habits are now ingrained in your work ethos and your reflexes. Be patient with the rest of us. You may have been the outlier. Now you’re the calm sage, the gracious guide helping the rest of us navigate a new work world.

If we call you too often or without scheduling a meeting first and it bugs you, listen patiently to our prattle and then suggest ways that will work for all of us. If we angle the camera on our laptops so you’re looking up our nostrils, gently suggest we look at the little image in the corner to make sure we see how others are seeing us and suggest we prop up the laptop differently. If you’re suddenly hearing from people a lot more or a lot less than normal, go with it for a while.

As with any change, we’ll all settle into new patterns fairly quickly. We’re all figuring out this brave new world together. We’re all on a learning curve. Personally, I have to learn if I have ice cream. I’m now all out of cookies.

Originally published on Forbes.com.

Posted in Communication Skills, Uncategorized, Working Remotely

Motivating Your Team From The Inside Out: Leveraging Internal Motivating Factors

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What motivates each of us to do better? I confess, I play Words with Friends compulsively. I swear I’m motivated by the intellectual challenge and the opportunity to occasionally best some of my really smart friends at the Scrabble-type game. Psychologists would probably tell you otherwise. They would say that I am influenced, albeit subconsciously, by the constant badges and awards I earn when I play a high-scoring word. We’re all motivated by elements obvious and elements subtle. What drives you at work? Moreover, if you lead a team, how do you keep them motivated?

Motivation at work comes from two sources – external factors and internal factors. Managers need to acknowledge the importance of both, but how do you keep employees engaged when you have little to no control over one of those factors?

External factors include things like salary, health benefits and physical working environment. Most line managers have little-to-no ability to impact these elements. We can all learn from those leaders who have to find creative ways to motivate their teams.

Internal factors are where Marc Berger lives. Berger is the New York regional director for the SEC. He notes, “In the public sector, the pay is different and the promotional opportunities are limited.”

David Peavler, Marc’s counterpart for the SEC’s Fort Worth Region, highlights, “It’s even tougher in the smaller offices. You just don’t have the opportunity to reward people with as many advanced positions.”

 “We both work with incredibly talented and dedicated professionals,” Berger notes. “We need to be creative in the way we reward people for their dedication and contribution.”

Both Berger and Peavler mindfully tap into these internal factors, including: impact, recognition and challenging and interesting work, to create growth opportunities for their employees.

Impact

Whether it’s balancing the P&L, closing the deal with a new client or, in my case, finding a five-letter word that ends in “Q” on a triple letter score space, we’re all achievement junkies to some extent.

Berger notes, “Government work is very fulfilling because you feel like you’re solving a problem and addressing an important need. The work we do is a motivating factor in and of itself.”

Peavler adds, “The nature of the work fuels the people involved. They feel like they’re fighting the good fight.”

Whether you’re in the public or private sector, the message is the same: developing people and putting them in situations where they can make a difference is a key to keeping them motivated. If someone’s not performing well, no motivation program is going to change their overall level of happiness. Once people have an impact on clients, customers or the organization, you can further motivate them by making sure their success is recognized.

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Recognition

Most people respond well to being recognized for their achievements. In 2019, the Mary Kay Cosmetic Company celebrated the 50th year of awarding its top salespeople pink Cadillacs. At professional services firms, the corner office isn’t just prime real estate because of the broader views – it’s the outward sign of substantial achievement. Regardless of the setting, recognizing the achievements of others is a crucial part of motivating your team. Many people don’t need huge accolades, and recognition doesn’t always have to cost a lot.

Even within the dictates of the federal government’s compensation protocol, Berger found a way to reward high performers.

“I needed to reward hard work and contribution, but there were limited promotional paths forward for some people as they advanced in my office,” Berger noted. “So I created a new opportunity, the ‘counsel to the regional director’ role.” Professionals on his team are selected to rotate through the role for four months at a time, receiving slightly higher compensation for those months. “Arguably a more important reward than the extra money is the opportunity to learn how the agency functions on a broader basis, which gives them added insight into decision-making when they return to their regular roles.

“As a leader, you have to make these opportunities happen because they don’t always occur naturally,” Peavler said. “We find opportunities to recognize high performers in a meaningful way, such as by having them lead important internal initiatives or speak on the agency’s behalf at industry or public events. And sometimes it’s as simple as giving someone an extra day off or more flexibility in their schedule, things that don’t necessarily cost the organization a great deal but mean a lot to the employee.”

Every few Words with Friends games, I download a bucket of rewards that earn me points I can use as currency to buy advantages in the game and badges that give me an encouraging cyberspace pat on the back. And at my firm, the last agenda item at every staff meeting is “Applause, Applause,” where people have the chance to publicly acknowledge someone who has gone above and beyond for them or the group in the last month. The recognition is always appreciated by the recipient, creates a supportive work culture and ends the meeting on a high note.

Challenging & Interesting Work

Having a career means more than holding a job. In a career, we’re looking for advancement and an opportunity for growth. We want to keep getting better at what we’re doing. In between promotions there may be long stretches when we’re doing the same job repeatedly. How do you keep someone who’s in that phase motivated to bring their best self to the task every day? One way is to provide options for growth through challenging and interesting work. Adding a new component to someone’s role keeps the job from becoming stale.

At the SEC, Berger found a variety of ways to accomplish this. “I try to identify cutting edge investigative work or a novel examination approach and then have that team present the matter to their colleagues at staff-wide meetings. This allows them to share their expertise and techniques with others, while they develop their presentation and communication skills in front of large audiences,” Berger noted.

Peavler added, “While I usually can’t offer the same perks available to the private sector, I can honor someone’s accomplishments by assigning them challenging or high-profile cases or examinations, encouraging them to become experts on important industry subjects and giving them opportunities to mentor others and be mentored by senior staff.

He added, “All of these elements gave me some options for recognizing the team’s hard work and dedication and gave them a growth opportunity. The exposure to new opportunities and experiences gave them a differentiator for their resumes.”

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Summary

Companies, especially large, publicly traded companies, are supposed to be driven by maximizing share value. Yet many seem equally driven to make the list of “Best Places to Work” and the like. Organizations large and small increasingly leverage team motivation and individual engagement to drive performance. To keep your team motivated to perform at their best for you and the organization, consider the individuals’ internal motivating factors.

  1. Find ways to make them successful
  2. Celebrate those successes
  3. Look for low-cost ways to keep their job challenging and engaging

Finally, if you know any six letter words that include an “X” and a “Z” let me know. I’m 40 points behind and really need a win.

Originally published on Forbes.com.

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Enhance Your Online Brand

Now that we can’t meet in person, your online presence is your first impression. Maybe you’re looking for a new job, aiming to expand your current role, or working to stay relevant in a changing world. Either way, you need a strong virtual presence to get there.

Today, your online brand is equally as important as your in-person presence. Staying top-of-mind and growing your network are essential business tools. So how can you make sure that your online presence represents you and the value that you add? Here are 3 easy tips from Karen Rodriguez, Exec-Comm’s Marketing Partner, on managing your online brand.

Please share some more tips on how you ensure that your online presence properly represents your skills.

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Channeling Astronaut Mark Watney: Effective Leadership In The Age Of ‘What Else Could Possibly Go Wrong?’

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I have been alone in my home office for over a month, not seeing anyone. I’ve had to learn all sorts of new technology to stay alive, workwise. I have literally planted 60 heads of lettuce in the backyard, so according to the movie The Martian, technically I’ve colonized my small patch of Pleasantville, New York. I haven’t had a haircut in almost two months. The only difference between astronaut Mark Watney and me, is that he lost weight and I’ve gained it.

It’s been seven weeks since I closed my firm’s physical office. If you’re in management, like me, during this time you’ve felt isolated, challenged, overwhelmed, supported, determined, often stressed, sometimes abandoned and sometimes on a bit of an adventure trying to figure all this out. And that’s just on a good morning.

In the last few weeks, you’ve probably had to furlough employees so they can make ends meet by taking advantage of benefits programs. You may have had to take the very difficult step of laying off some cherished co-workers. You’ve worked with other colleagues to craft new business solutions and find new approaches to open doors with clients. You’ve applied for government loan programs, not completely sure what they are offering or how best to use the revenue. And you’ve heard about colleagues whose health has been impacted by COVID-19.

How do you keep going when…

…you miss those who have been furloughed or laid off?

…you’re so grateful for and humbled by those colleagues who have kept the creative juices flowing?

…you’re making decisions on the information available when you know that information will change, sometimes by the day or hour?

…you’re thinking, praying and pulling for those you know who are or have been sick?

In the movie The Martian, there’s a scene that really struck me. (Mild spoilers ahead.) It’s after the hatch explodes and Watney loses his crops. He covers the opening with a tarp, but every time the wind blows, he can hear the tarp snap taut and strain. He winces, knowing if the tarp tears or blows open, it’s all over. Yet he grits his teeth, inhales deeply and perseveres. As he says at the end of the movie, “In space, you solve one problem, then you move on to the next, and then on to the next. And if you solve enough problems, you get to come home.”

We’re all in what feels like the Martian landscape now. You may be trying to figure out how to teach your kids, manage your finances in the face of uncertainty, stay healthy in spite of an invisible and unpredictable virus, connect with loved ones, maintain your mental health and keep your business afloat. Each news bulletin feels like the snap of the tarp. We need every bit of grit we can muster to stay focused on the task at hand. We need to solve one problem at a time and move on to the next. Then, we’ll get to come home.

If you’re in management, here are some straightforward ideas to help you through this difficult landscape:

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  • Over-communicate with your team, while being clear and concise – they have a lot of information coming at them, too.
  • Make decisions based on what you know at the time and remain nimble enough to change as quickly as the news evolves.
  • Let your team know that today’s decisions are made on the best available information, and that those decisions may change tomorrow. Your honesty and transparency with your team will help everyone know that we’re all in this together and help them appreciate that sudden changes in direction are part of the larger plan to keep everything moving forward.
  • Focus on what’s in front of you. If you don’t solve today’s problems, tomorrow’s problems won’t matter very much.
  • In spite of the point above, make sure you’re solving today’s problems with an eye on meeting your larger objectives for down the road.
  • If you manage with honesty and integrity, your team will be both understanding when you make the tough calls and a bit more forgiving when you make the inevitable misstep. Keep true to your values and guiding principles, even when it’s tough.
  • Channel Mark Watney: grit your teeth, breathe and keep moving forward.

Like you, I’m working on solving some bigger problems each day. Tonight, I’m just learning to cut my own hair.

Originally published on Forbes.com.

Posted in Communication Skills, Innovation, Leadership Skills, Uncategorized, Working Remotely

Meet Me In The Middle

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As a communication professional and executive coach, I teach people how to be effective communicators. How to have conversations that connect rather than divide.

One of the most common stumbling blocks I encounter when teaching effective conversation skills is the existence of confirmation bias.

So, what is it?

Confirmation bias is our tendency to seek out information that confirms our existing beliefs while discounting information that contradicts them. It feels better to find evidence that confirms what you believe to be true rather than to find evidence that falsifies it. Why go out in search of disappointment?

When these beliefs are strongly held, entering conversations with people who don’t share them can create a conversational minefield, as we are reluctant to accept their point of view as valid, and them ours.

As a coach, I pride myself on questioning my deeply held beliefs, staying aware of my confirmation bias, and helping others do the same. But being a coach is occasionally like being a shoemaker who goes barefoot.

This dissonance became abundantly clear to me over the last 24 hours.

Last night, I spoke with a close friend about the implications of these uncertain times. Unfortunately, I entered this conversation armed with my carefully curated belief system, aided by my own unchecked confirmation bias.

 “We’re in for the long haul; this thing is going to go on for months.”

 “That seems drastic,” she replied, “let’s keep positive and hope it’s only a few weeks.”

“That’s simply not realistic,” I sternly objected.

“But I need to be optimistic.”

“Well your optimism isn’t realistic.”

We hung up; I knew I had mis-stepped. Feelings hurt, my friend called me back to tell me so.

She explained, “I need hope. If I don’t feel hopeful, I won’t make it through this. I need to be positive”

My friend navigates her life on this concept, which feels scarily upsetting to a skeptic like me. But recognizing her distress, I apologized half -heartedly.

It only took a few more hours for my viewpoint to be challenged again – when a friend who I disagree with on nearly every policy issue texted me.

 “I’d rather get sick and succumb to this disease before putting my children’s future at risk.”

“How ridiculous,” I thought. How could he be making a cost-benefit analysis at a time like this?! My emotional adrenaline surged.

Emotions still on high alert the following morning, I was forced to reevaluate my conversations. Come on coach, you’re trained for this. Stop going barefoot and put some shoes on.

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And then it dawned on me, my confirmation bias was on full display. I carried my own firmly held beliefs into my conversations, unchecked. By failing to question them, I limited my ability to effectively connect with friends. I needed to do what I teach my clients – question my beliefs. What information could I intentionally seek out that supported my friends’ points of view?

I read about the positive effects of hope on the individual psyche, I sought out information on the risks to the economy, and I opened my mind. She needed hope and he was worried about his children’s futures. Those beliefs systems had merit.

Given the uncertainty we are all faced with, it might be fair to say that most of us are no experts right now.

We are a bit lost, stumbling through this crisis together. In emotionally charged situations, the pull of confirmation bias only intensifies. But it’s now more critical than ever to call it out and stop it from dividing us when we most need to be connected.

As a coach, I am trained to call people’s attention to this – to help them overcome it. As a friend, it’s just good sense. I invite you all to meet me in the middle. Trust me, you’ll feel better.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself to check if confirmation bias is creeping into your conversations:

  • Do I have particularly strong feelings or beliefs about the issue at hand?
  • What if I thought the opposite of those ideas?
  • Do I avoid, block, or even attack informed people who appropriately disagree with me?
  • How do I react to points that I agreed or disagreed with?
  • Which parts did I automatically agree with?
  • Which parts did I ignore or skim over without realizing?
  • Am I basing my conclusions on selective evidence?

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Too Much Email While WFH?

Consider these quick tips before you hit ‘send’:

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Can it wait?

If your email is not time-critical, consider waiting to send. That way your recipients can deal with urgent matters first.

If you are worried about forgetting to send, draft the email and use the delay delivery option.

Have I buried the lead?

Take a brief pause to think about the high-level takeaway from your email – it should be a very brief sentence. Put this information up front, right after your greeting. Some people only read what can be seen in the preview screen of Outlook, so make sure your message is clear. 

Then clearly state what you want, why you want it, and when you need a response. Think of this as an “executive summary” for your reader.

Does my subject line help the reader?

Effective subject lines make you stand out from the hundreds of emails people receive. You come across as smart, organized, and professional. 

  • Is there a project name or other reference point?
  • What is the email about?
  • Do you need a response by a certain time?
  • Is it just an informational update? Consider if you need to send it now.

Can I group content to avoid sending multiple emails?

If you are reviewing materials or brainstorming a problem, consider putting all your comments and ideas into one email. It is sometimes tempting to get information to the team quickly in separate emails, but sending one email containing all your points makes it easier for people to action them, and prevents something from slipping through the cracks.


Stay safe and healthy during this difficult time.

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5 Must Do’s When You’re Suddenly Working From Home Full-Time

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Personally, I don’t like working from home. If I can choose, I go into the office. I just get more done. Unfortunately, to protect my family and my employees, going to the office is no longer the best option. For some of you, it’s not an option at all.

For those who have not worked from home full-time before now, you’ll want to prepare by doing the following:

1. Take inventory (literally) of what you need to effectively do your job

At first, it’s easy to think that if you’ve got your laptop, you’re all set. Before making this assumption, take a moment to really think about how you work and the important tasks you need to get done. What files do you need to access? Do you need to print physical copies or ship things overnight? What else do you use to perform your job well and independently?

If your job requires you to collaborate with others often, figure out how you might replicate those work channels. Will you use Microsoft Teams, WhatsApp, Zoom, Slack, or other platforms? And, keep in mind that this isn’t your decision alone. You may need to decide as a team which platform works best for everyone.

2. Ensure you have a strong virtual presence

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Just like you wouldn’t show up to work disheveled, make sure your virtual presence is equally put together. Does your home workspace reflect how you want people to see you? What, exactly, do people experience when they watch you “through the lens”? Here are some questions to consider: Are you dressed appropriately? Is your sound quality strong? Is your camera lighting and set up effective? Is there a risk of annoying or unexpected background noise?

If you are working in your personal space, control the frame that people see. Perhaps you’ll want to move your laundry basket out of the frame. How about that wine bottle you keep on the counter behind you? Remove anything you’d rather others not see. If you can eliminate or reduce excess background noise, try to do so. If you can’t, address it upfront so the other person isn’t left wondering what’s happening. Since it’s a best practice to turn on your camera, the excuse that your webcam is not working will only last for so long.

3. Create an environment that is easy to work in

Most of us separate our work lives from our home lives and our environments reflects that. If you’re not used to working from home, your home may be filled with distractions. To ensure your own effectiveness, find ways to create a workspace that blocks out those distractions.

Since NYC just closed schools, I have two young kids running around the house. If you can get help from a relative or a babysitter to watch them during key work hours, great! If you and your spouse are both working from home, consider staggering work call times with your spouse in case you need to take turns keeping the kids busy. If you are alone, manage the expectations of your clients and colleagues as you figure out a longer-term solution.

Another practical tip from my colleagues who work 100% remote is to structure your day so you can settle into a regular routine. Decide specific times when your workday starts and ends. Schedule breaks throughout the day since it’ll be unlikely your colleagues will drop by your desk to give you a “natural” break. For some of you with chatty colleagues, this might be a perk.

4. Stay close and connected

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When you work from home, you are increasing the distance on three dimensions – physical, operational, relational. Your goal is to understand how those distances impact you and how you can best minimize them. My colleague, Neha Ratnakar, shares 6 ways to reduce these distances in this article.

If you manage people, proactively connect with your team regularly. Schedule one-on-ones and periodic check-ins. This is especially important if you typically check in with your team by just dropping by their offices. You may find yourself less able to catch physical cues when someone is not feeling their best. When we’re in the same office and we see someone feeling down, we ask, “Is everything ok?” This is so much harder to pick up on when we’re virtual. Remember to include small talk in your virtual meetings so you stay connected at all levels with your teammates.

5. Be clear about expectations

Although technology has come a long way to help us effectively engage in remote settings, our productivity is still dependent on the nature of our work and our own comfort level using these technologies. Since it’s easy to assume that we can quickly convert our in-person productivity to virtual, you’ll want to take a step back and ask yourself whether that’s true.

Have a conversation about what is the expected output now that you’re working from home. If you manage others, discuss your expectations and make sure they are realistic. You might also want to leverage email more to make things clear. Consider following up after meetings with a quick email summary of the conversation and confirm your understanding of Who does What by When. For right now, you may also want to add How, at least until we all have a better sense of how to work effectively in this new normal.


There is a lot to think about and this transition can be stress-inducing. You may find that you are less active working from home than you were in the office. Keep up your exercise routine and if you can’t go to the gym because of social distancing, then take a walk or go for a run. On the positive side, if you have a tiring commute or hectic morning routine, you may find that working from home gives you more flexibility and time with family. If you become adept at working remotely, you may also be broadening your career opportunities.

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6 Tips To Help You Reduce Distance For Remote Teams

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As more employees work remotely, how do you and your team maintain proximity?

Reducing the feeling of distance is a key strategy to create effective virtual teams. Three distance types to consider when working remotely are physical, operational, and affinity*. Our Learning Consultant, Neha Ratnakar, who has worked extensively with remote teams, shares these tips to help reduce the feeling of distance.


6 Tips to Help You Reduce Distance for Remote Teams  
 

Reduce Physical Distance
 

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Tip 1: Always Use A Camera

Seeing your colleagues during everyday interactions helps to create a level of connection and rapport that is impossible to replicate through chat or phone. This affinity is worth dressing up for… So put a nice shirt on top of your pajama bottoms and learn how to use the background blurring function. You can thank us later!

   
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Tip 2: Keep your “Door” Open

You don’t have to lose the open-door policy just because there is no door. Consider this great technique from Henk Campher, VP of Corporate Marketing and Head of Impact at Hootsuite:

“One of my favorite hacks as a leader working remotely is having ‘open door’ time slots for team members… meant to be like ‘swing by my desk’ for a quick chat or to ask a burning question, no appointment needed – just as you would in a physical office.”

   

Reduce Operational Distance
 

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Tip 3: Bridge Language Gaps

Virtual teams allow us to tap into talent anywhere in the world. It’s especially important to be mindful of your colleagues for whom English is not their first language. Virtual settings can make it easy to miss the non-verbal cues that we often use for context. Create a detailed agenda before meetings and use simple language without idioms or cultural references to express ideas.

   
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Tip 4: Overlap Team Schedules

Life starts filling the gaps between work assignments for remote workers. Work-life harmony is one of the biggest perks of working remotely. Just make sure you schedule a few hours where the entire team stays online together to foster collaboration.

   

Reduce Affinity Distance
 

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Tip 5: Proactively Build Trust

Try to avoid situations where a remote team member and their manager are in the same room during a team call. Such hybrid calls can quickly make other people feel excluded. Having everyone join all calls using their own devices, even when co-located, is a quick way to avoid this situation.

   
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Tip 6: Don’t Forget the Cake!

Just because you and your team are in different cities, doesn’t mean the celebrations need to stop. There are services like Pizzatime that provide shared experiences like team lunches with pizzas delivered even to far-flung employees. It also makes sense to meet at least once a year to spend some time together. And yes, don’t forget the birthday cake!


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Receiving Feedback

“Although you can find hundreds of resources teaching you how to give feedback effectively, there are very few that will tell you how to receive it well.” Neha Ratnakar, Exec-Comm Learning Consultant, shares her top 3 tips for how to graciously handle even the toughest feedback:

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Of Privilege, Presumption And Promise: Inequality In The Workplace And Ways To Combat It

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Recently, 140 professionals, mostly strangers, set aside an entire day to get uncomfortable with each other. We had frank and revealing conversations. I found myself sharing a few personal stories that I had never shared in a work setting before with a man I’d just met. It wasn’t always comfortable, but it was honest, open and helpful.

We were participants at The Better Man Conference, hosted at Unilever in Englewood Cliffs, New Jersey. A series of speakers, including psychologists, researchers, authors and business professionals, led us through exercises to help us understand how men can be more helpful allies for their women colleagues. The audience was 80% male, 20% female. The women in the audience provided as much helpful perspective as the speakers did.

While the focus of the discussion was on how men, specifically straight, white men, can help facilitate equality in the workplace for women, the conversation addressed broader issues of how we can all avoid behaviors that demean, antagonize and marginalize others. In short, we spent eight hours learning how to be better people to those around us.

The day was divided into four broad topics, each with a clear learning point.

First, we covered how to identify, acknowledge and appreciate our own privilege in society without apology and without blinders on the advantage that might have bestowed on us. Self-reflection does not need to be self-critical. I can admit I have received an advantage because of my race, gender, national origin, income level or other attributes without feeling guilty about it. I not only didn’t earn any of those categories, I didn’t cause any of the societal and institutional advantages they bestowed upon me. However, pretending certain attributes don’t give me an advantage is dishonest and increases inequality rather than lessens it.

One of the speakers, Karen Brown, turned the notion of privilege on its head. Brown recounted how growing up poor in Jamaica was a life of struggle that required frequent moves and a sense of dislocation, but she identified that need to be resilient as a privilege that others don’t have a chance to develop. Being able to identify those privileges that make our lives easier and those that are borne from adversity provided a helpful framework for the small-group discussions we then had with other attendees.

Second, we discussed the difference between intent and impact. While my heart may be in the right place as I offer assistance, guide a conversation or provide feedback, if I am not aware of the other person’s needs in the moment, I’m not only not helpful, I am undermining my good intent. It reminded me of a coffee mug I once saw that read, “I’m not bossy. I’m helpful.”

One way to help bring intent and impact closer together is to ask the person you’re speaking with for feedback on your comments. Preface your comment with, “Would it be helpful if I shared a few thoughts on that?” That slows the conversation and gives the other person a “heads up” that you’re about to offer your perspective. It also highlights for both you and the other person your intent with the information – to be helpful. Reminding yourself of your intent will help you be more aware of your language choice and content. Highlighting that intent for your audience will buy you some good will and benefit of the doubt regarding how the message lands.

Sometimes, regardless of any preface, your comment will be taken in an unintended way. That’s when it’s time to simply listen well to the other person so you can understand their perspective. In short, it’s best to consider why you are sharing a particular comment, what tone you are using, whether you have asked permission from the person to share your comment and how easy it will be for the person to implement your advice.

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Third, we learned how to listen so intently that we not only heard the speaker’s content but understood and appreciated the underlying emotions. Responding to someone with platitudes is just going through the motions of listening. Responding with patience, additional questions, quiet acknowledgement and empathy builds a relationship and helps the other person feel heard. It’s the difference between surface and substance.

Finally, we learned to commit to action. The day provided enough concrete tips and techniques that everyone in the room, male and female alike, was able to identify what steps they could take to be better allies for those who need them. For me, I committed to finding an ally at work who will flag for me instances where I’ve said or done something that was harmful, or could have been more helpful. It’s a small step in the right direction.

Here are three key takeaways you can put into action right away.

1. Reflect on your own situation – what attributes do you possess that you benefit from but didn’t have to earn? Acknowledge them as privileges – no shame, no guilt, just your starting point for self-awareness.

2. Avoid assumptions by asking how you can be helpful, instead of assuming your first instinct on what to share will be a big value-add to those around you.

3. Listen to learn and relate to the other person rather than as a necessary, perfunctory step before you can speak.

Originally published on Forbes.com.

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